Secrets of a Positive Attitude

Secrets of a Positive Attitude

Greetings self help reader,

Are you constantly bombarded by thoughts of negativity? Plagued by feelings of insecurity? Do you see everything in a negative manner? The reason for this lies deep within your heart. You are what you mentally and spiritually eat. If a person drinks alchohol on a daily basis, odds are their body will be affected in some way. They may have liver issues, develop cancer or incur some other type of health problem directly related to the amount of alcohol they have consumed. In the same way, a person who constantly feeds themselves negative thoughts will simply turn into a negative person.

This is the time to go on a diet. A diet of positive attitude food. You have to literally stop feeding your mind negative things. Ask yourself is this thought negative or positive or negative? What do negative thoughts look like? Well, they start with can't rather than can, no as opposed to yes, will and not won't. The Bible which is the greatest self help book ever written, speaks about taking every thought captive. The problem in our society has become that our thoughts have taken us captive. We have begun to let our thoughts control us.

A great way to know what we are negative about is to ask those people who are closest to us. You can ask your spouse

or another person in your life who really knows you how they would rate your attitude on a scale of 1 to 10. 10 being super positive and 1 super negative. Ask this person to be totally honest with you. You will benefit from their honesty even if it causes you pain. Ask this person what it is that you specifically say that they perceive as negative. Write down what they say and look at the actual words. Now is the time to be honest with yourself. Those words are a reflection of what is inside you. They are who you are. The great thing is that you can change. It is as simple as making a choice to do so. You must decide to replace the thoughts of negativity with thoughts of positivity. Decide what words you will change the negative words on your paper to. Once you have done this, make an effort to insert these new positive thoughts in your mind. You will begin to notice a positive change taking place in your life. Your family, friends and co-workers will all notice it as well. They may not know what is different about you. But they will know that you are not the same person that you were.

The items which are causing negativity in your life could very well be the news, movies, constantly replaying tragedy in your mind and the list could go on. These things should be eliminated if you want your new mental health regimen to be a success. The news is very negative and does not help someone who is trying to rid their mind of such thoughts. When you are feeding yourself thoughts of death from a war or gunshot or car accident visually the outcome will be negative. I do believe there is a time to grieve over the death of a loved one. However, if a person constantly replays this negative event in their minds it can lead to depression. The person who has passed away is not coming back and we must close that chapter in our lives and move on to the next chapter. This is a difficult task which can only be done by making a decision to proceed with our own life, no matter how hard this may be.

You can do it. You can and will have a positive attitude, if you simply take the steps outlined above. You do not have to be what you were in the past. You can be different in the future. The choice is yours. I know you will make a positive one.

Sit, Relax, Have a Rest, and Improve Your Self-esteem

In our fast, progressive times everything happens so quickly, that we do not have enough time to give to ourselves. We are running from home to work in the morning, and back in the evenings, trying to get as much money as we can. In the evening we watch different useless TV shows and aggressive movies, play freaky computer games, talk and gossip for hours on the telephone. In the end there is no time to rest. Even when we go to sleep - we cannot sleep, because we are too exhausted.

Time passes so fast that we forget to notice the things going around us and within. We have forgotten the fact that every minute of our stay on the planet Earth should bring us happiness and joy of living. We do not notice the beauty of the nature, the songs that birds are singing, the color of the bright amazing blue sky. Finally we are broke and frustrated. We hate the world we live, because we have no time to appreciate it. We hate ourselves because we are so tired and ill from the work we dislike. We discover that the life has passed by but we have not fulfilled our dream because we had no time for ourselves. Our self-esteem is lower than ever because we do not know who we are and what do we want, as again we had no time for ourselves to think all those things through.

So now it's time for us to sit, relax, have a rest and improve the self-esteem. From that day decide to give yourself just one hour a day, or may be more, off from any work, kids, family, friends, TV, radio, and all the problems in the world. Choose a comfortable chair in a quiet room, close your eyes and relax.

Let me explain what a man needs that time for. First of all, you need that time to think about yourself to find out what do you want to do in life to make yourself happy. Scan the talents you have or would like to develop. Think of the work you would like to do (not the job you are currently occupied with, except for if you like it). You will finally find the answer.

Second, use this time to develop self-esteem by positive self talk. Watch your thoughts flow from your subconscious, notice what you do not like, what your subconscious is telling you, and try to reprogram it by positive affirmations. Don't forget to remind yourself every day how unique and perfect you are. Tell yourself that you CAN, CAN, CAN accomplish everything in your life, because you are worthwhile. By discovering yourself more and more, you will start loving your personality and won't let anyone let you down in the future.

Thirdly you need that time for your creativity. If your time is always full of work, the only thing you are obviously thinking is what you are doing in the particular time. And like any human you can think only one thought in a time. So there is no space left in your brain to create something new.

I think now it is the right time to let go of all the problems and stresses. Try researching yourself; make your brain think about how to improve your life and your self-confidence. Use this time to learn from your past experience, not to make same mistakes over and over again.

Build a plan to maintain your present situation, to go on the higher, more desired level. Try this method and you will see your self-esteem rising higher and higher every day.

Go for it - improve your self-esteem by just relaxing!

Why never have any spire times?

The question is often asked why we never have any spare time in the modern life.

Well it is our poor choice management that much has been written about proper time management, but sometimes the advice focuses merely on making more efficient use of time. Get up earlier, delegate everything. Such advice does not really effectively address the problem of too many tasks. In fact, too much emphasis on time management makes one obsessive, always watching the clock and thinking about what task is scheduled next. So perhaps the nervousness over time management should give way to a more thoughtful care about choice management. Manage your life, not your time. Modern society suffers from an unwillingness to say, "No." Faced with too many options and too much pressure, we respond with too many YESES. We are afraid to deny to others or to ourselves the many opportunities, the many options, we face daily. But everything we choose requires Use Time.

There is an old proverb somewhere that says, "To accomplish more, do less." Success doesn’t require hard work, success requests smart work. Plan your day and enjoy accomplishing them.

I wish you Good Luck .

How to realize your Potential?

Every one of us has our own incredible capacity to accomplish our wildest dreams! Did you know? That, within you is the power to accomplish anything you want in your life but it will never happen if you are not tuned into your true desires.

For an example if you want to be succeeding in business, you may not be another mega-millionaire, but you will succeed in your endeavors. Set goals that you can achieve. Divide them into little tidbits that you can accomplish every day, every month, or every year. Set your goals for success.

Start immediately to accomplish the goals you have set. In fact, give yourself a task that you can finish by tomorrow. Think of yourself as a success in your endeavors. Live and breathe them until you have them.

Can you see yourself a year from now, having achieved a few goals?

Can you make the decision and commitment to become successful in your desires?

If you answer yes then you have the potential to accomplish anything you want.

People fail because they immediately fasten their attention to the negative. Change your thinking and work the part of your plan you can, do everything you can! Always appreciate everything, even if you feel like something could be negative. Understand that there is no right or wrong way to do something. Be thankful for your mistakes, and let them go!

Because, there are no mistakes only opportunities to learn.

Enjoy the moment, live your moment and forget the future or your past…

What do you want in life?

Wouldn't it be great to have a real life that made all our wishes come true? Well, forget it. That's not going to happen in this lifetime. Opportunity must be created - not wished for. If you wait around for things to happen, don’t wait for life to happen. Get out there and be what happens to life!

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If you have no plan for your life, you have planned to fail. In other words, by doing nothing, we get nothing. We are the architect of our life. An easily established plan of action we can refer to that will help us get what we want in life.

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So what is your plan?

What do you really want out of your life?

And what steps will you take to achieve them?

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Now, get a pen and a blank sheet of paper, write something you want in life, and write five steps you will take to accomplish your desires. Keep the list with you and concentrate on it every day. Visualize yourself already having these goals. Devote time to working on your list, accomplishing your wants and they will happen for you. But you must participate in the effort to get them and not just wait around for them to happen. Keep a smaller version of your list with you at all times and refer to it as often as you can.

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So, working with your goal list every day, whatever it takes, what else can you do? Keep your goals and desires in the forefront of your mind and do whatever it takes to make them become realities.

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I wish you good luck with all your desires in life.

Exercise your brain.

Not only is exercise smart for your heart and weight, but it can make you smarter and better at what you do.

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By: Jean Lawrence

No matter what your age or shape, you should train and exercise your brain regularly. Not only is exercise smart for your heart and weight, but also it can make you smarter, perform better at what you do, It affects mood, vitality, alertness, feelings of well being, you can think more clearly, and you can function at a higher level.

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According to medical studies

Challenge your brain by doing old routines in new ways

Brush your teeth with your other hand

Do crossword puzzles

Learn a new language

Learn a new computer program

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A Brain exercise you can do right now…

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This is an exercise that can strengthen neural connections and even create new ones.

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Switch the hand you are using to control the computer mouse.

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Use the hand you normally do NOT use.

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What do you notice?

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Is it harder to be precise and accurate with your motions?

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Do you feel like you did when you were first learning to tie your shoelaces?

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If you are feeling uncomfortable and awkward don’t worry, your brain is learning a new skill.

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Try other neural building and strengthening exercises with everyday movements.

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Use your opposite hand to brush your teeth, dial the phone or operate the TV remote.

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I wish you good luck with your Brain Exercise

Practice forgiveness and enjoy the power

Forgiveness is something we all should practice regularly on daily basis. Most of the world religions teaching on forgiveness and the most profound human example Mohammed (PBUH) as an example of someone who forgives others for their ignorance, even those who considered themselves to be his enemies.

Forgiveness is a gift for all Mankind, it is a peace of mind and a way of releasing ourselves from the pain we have experienced from others. Most of us have reflection of our past experiences so many negative and fearful emotions that make us feel powerless. Holding onto grievances only causes us pain, suffering and conflict. We refuse to expend a lot of energy thinking about how others have wronged us. Instead we can use our energy to focus on what we need to do most important things in life. We can't go along in life for too long before we have an opportunity to forgive someone. We may not verbally lash out, but we can get upset with people in our thoughts, without even realizing we need to forgive them. Release yourself. Let it go and know that the person who forgives is always strongest person.

Did you know that? Practicing forgiveness is not something we do for other people, we do it for our own sake to get well and move on. It does not change our past. Instead, it changes our feelings about the past. People who are willing and able to forgive tend to be more satisfied with their life. Let your friends, enemies or a person someone who hurts you know that you have forgiven.

However, forgiveness is taking positive action reconnecting us with our own power. I would encourage you to understand and allow yourself to exercise in forgiveness with your hand on your heart, take a deep breath and let it go. Let’s feel less stress, less anger, and more forgiveness.

Let’s practice forgiveness until it becomes one of our habits

Thank you for your precious time

Father & Son

An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his45 Years old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window.

The Father asked his Son, "What is this?"
The Son replied "It is a crow".
After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, "What is this?"
The Son said "Father, I have just now told you "It's a crow".

After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time,"What is this?" At this time some expression of irritation was felt in the Son's tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff. "It's a crow, a crow".

A little after, the Father again asked his Son t he 4th time, "What is this?"

This time the Son shouted at his Father, "Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times'ITIS A CROW'. Are you not able to understand this?"A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary:- "Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time h e asked me the same question again and again for 23 times. I did not at all feel irritated I rather felt affection for my innocent child".

While the little child asked him 23 times "What is this", the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.

So..If your parents attain old age, do not repulse them or look at them as a burden, but speak to them a gracious word, be cool, obedient, humble and kind to them. Be considerate to your parents. From today say this aloud "I want to see my parents happy forever. They have cared for me even since I was a little child. They have always showered their selfless love on me.They crossed all mountains and valleys without seeing the storm and heat to make me a person presentable in the society today".Say a prayer to God, "I will serve my old parents in the BEST way. I will say all good and kind words to my dear parents, no matter how they behave.

Be Confident and Enjoy the happiness

Have you ever thought about to be confident? Well, I read a proverb somewhere says that, “For a man of confidence all roads lead to success” first of all it’s very good to make a list of special talents that you have for an example: Focusing on your attributes helps distract you from those parts of yourself that you think are flawed. It doesn't have to be a specific skill or activity either; it can be an approach or an attitude that you champion throughout your life.

The next thing is that we have to take action. Taking a simple step of action can be very powerful that will bring such a surprise. It could be something as simple as tackling a task that you have been procrastinating, such as writing a letter to your friend that has been out of control for the last several months. Whether large or small, action brings with it exhilaration, enthusiasm, and the confidence.

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Finally, you have to take care of yourself that eat a healthy diet and make sure that you get enough exercise. Don’t overload your body and don’t deny any of the things that your body needs. At the same time, you know what? Buying all the moisturizers and creems will never bring you closer to who really want to be, those are only make up. Confidence comes from within. Take the time to reflect on your life and do some emotional maintenance. In order to be confident, you must value yourself and understand that your well-being is important.

I wish you good luck with your self confidence.

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Thank you for your precious time.